It started with a drunken night in Vegas. That's how all good stories start, right? We were in town to celebrate a wedding and Mr. Fix-It was hosting a bachelor party for his best friend. I opted to hit the town with the girlfriends/fiancees/wives of the group. One of the girls, recently having had her second baby started RAVING about "not finding out".
All stories are slightly more dramatic and important after a few drinks. But, that's not the point.
Slightly-tipsy-wife talked about how "that moment" in the delivery room - seeing her baby for the first time, hearing her husband announce it's sex, and taking in the realization she'd just had just become a mother - it was the most amazing moment of her life. She said the surprise, the excitement, the motivation to push harder in the delivery room had so much to do with her desire to finally know. Would she have a son or daughter? It made meeting her baby that much more incredible.
After hearing a pitch like that, it seemed awfully hard to not consider not finding out.
Mr. Fix-It was on board pretty easily. He loved the idea of saving the surprise for the moment we meet our baby. Plus, slightly-tipsy-wife presented him with a similar compelling argument when the boys took a break from playing blackjack. Mind you, at this time I wasn't even engaged. But again, that's not the point (right?).
When we finally did start talking babies, we both remembered that night in Vegas. And how much our friend made not finding out seem like the most magical thing in the world. So, we went for it.
Over time, we also found a few reasons of our own.
- Items for Multiple Kids: I can tell you right now, if I knew I was having a girl there would be a whole lot of pink, girly stuff on our registry. Pink stroller? Maybe. Similarly, if it was a boy, I'm quite sure I'd be looking at more boyish swaddle blankets and the like. Not finding out is forcing me to select items that are for a BABY, and therefore can be used as we have more kids. It's practical, and avoids waste.
- Avoid Gobs of (unwanted) Clothes: I'm picky about baby clothes. I've been called snobby - I don't mind. What I do mind? "Daddy's Little Princess" and "100% handsome" on baby clothes. No, thanks. I find a lot of the gendered stuff in big box stores generally unfortunate (and stereotypical). I know it's unavoidable to an extent, and people are generous enough to buy gifts so I should hush, but if not finding out helps us stick toward more classic pieces, so be it!
- Getting the Essentials: Not finding out helps you focus on what you actually need. People love to by outfits. I do! But people also wind up with 3 tutus and no car seat. I know it's fun, but my infant doesn't need boat shoes. Yet.
- It's fun to guess!: Really. I love hearing what people think we're having. I also love that I genuinely have no idea and will truly be shocked in the delivery room.