Wednesday, May 25, 2011

My "Night Off"

For the past several weeks, Mr. Fix-It and I have had opposite schedules. I work late on Mondays and Tuesdays, and he has class on Wednesdays. When I'm not home Mr. Fix-It will make himself dinner, do some household chores, do work/classwork, hit the gym, or take on a small project. Sometimes he'll sit on the sofa and relax, too.

I take a different approach to my alone time. I am explicitly clear that this is my evening to DO NOTHING. I totally indulge myself in all the things I enjoyed about being single. This includes:



...watching TV in bed while eating Potbelly's. Catching up on Bethenny and Pregnant in Heels. Eating Mac & Cheese out of the pot with a giant wooden spoon. Falling asleep at a ridiculous time like 8:30pm. Ignoring all dirty dishes and laundry. Writing a blog post. Aimlessly wandering the internet. Moseying home while I stop at random stores along my commute. Get a manicure. But mainly, curl up in bed early and watch tv.

Basically, I love Wednesdays. I relish in being completely carefree and lazy. But here's the thing: Mr. Fix-It doesn't get it AT ALL. Last week I was already asleep when he came home and he gave me the silent treatment Thursday morning before he left for work. He was annoyed that I don't do anything on Wednesday. Plus, he's just wired differently. Lounging around doesn't necessarily feel good to him. Mr. Fix-It feels best when he has accomplished something. It doesn't matter what the task is, he just wants something to show for his evening. And, admittedly, I blatantly ignored things around the condo that probably should have been done (dishes in the sink, overflowing laundry basket, finally preparing that chicken dish I'd been talking about making).

As much as I like the sense of accomplishment that comes from being productive, Wednesdays just fall in a different category. Plus, I'm being realistic: at some point we'll have kids and these kinds of opportunities will disappear. And Mr. Fix-Its Wednesday night class will be over sometime in June. My hopelessly lazy evenings are numbered.

What about you? Do you indulge yourself in your alone time?

11 comments:

  1. RELISH every second of it! There is nothing wrong with taking a night off and relaxing and going to bed early.

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  2. We have the exact same significant other!

    "...watching TV in bed while eating Potbelly's. Catching up on Bethenny and Pregnant in Heels. Eating Mac & Cheese out of the pot with a giant wooden spoon. Falling asleep at a ridiculous time like 8:30pm. Ignoring all dirty dishes and laundry. Writing a blog post. Aimlessly wandering the internet. Moseying home while I stop at random stores along my commute. Get a manicure. But mainly, curl up in bed early and watch tv."

    YES. To all of this. I feel like I get even less of an opportunity to engage in this kind of behavior (maybe 1x a month TOPS) and it is horrible over here ;) . Relish it while you've got it!

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  3. That's hilarious. My husband and I are reverse you and your husband. I'm the one who, on Friday when I come home after he's been off all day, gets annoyed at him if he hasn't DONE anything. :) I love that you can just shut down like that, though. I wish I could!

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  4. I could have written this :) The difference, instead of the silent treatment my husband lets me know how he feels about it, lol

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  5. That's funny because we're exactly the opposite! I'm a "doer" and I can't stand sitting still for too long, but my husband relishes in being lazy and not doing anything!

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  6. That sounds like the perfect way to spend the one night a week you have the time to be alone. I would do the exact same thing. I get up before Sean in the mornings and like to catch up on all my shows and drink coffee. Sometimes I'll run errands, but usually I'll just sit.

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  7. I totally do this! Eating in bed while watching netflix is my favorite (especially if it's popcorn for dinner!)

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  8. I think we're married to the same person, reading this was like reading a page out of my journal! Keep on relishing your night off : )

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  9. haha, hubby and me are the complete opposite! I'm the one who loves to accomplish things around the house with my free time and he is the one who would rather surf the internet or dissappear to the gym for several hours. Definitely enjoy those nights alone though! If that's what makes you happy, then do it!

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